As the stress builds around us, our words become more reaction than proaction. In these circumstances we may lash out as a defense mechanism. In order to protect ourselves, we criticize others. We are not as interested in the truth as much as defending ourselves. In the process we hurt others and separate ourselves from them.
Ephesians 4:15 gives us a better way when it says, “Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.” Instead of defensive and accusatory words, we are to speak the truth. But even truth can be used to harm others. That is why we are called to speak the truth in love. Our desire must be to build up others, not tear them down in our own defense.
We can’t do this in our own strength. That is why the verse says, “grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.” To speak the truth in love, we must begin with growing in our relationship with Christ. He changes our speech by granting His love and revealing truth to us.
Reluctant Retiree 